It’s that time of year where you’ve been busy treating everyone else during Christmas. Now it’s time to think about yourself! You’ve spent time giving away, but what things are you still keeping hold of that would be better for you to let go of? Here's 3 things worth thinking about:
1. Self-defeating behaviours
We all have habits we’ve adopted. Some good, others detrimental to our well being or progression. Maybe you procrastinate? Maybe you get distracted? Maybe you’re often running late? Such not so good behaviours can be self-defeating. They can stand in the way of you achieving where you want to be in life. So what would you find worth letting go of to help your personal growth? Challenge yourself to step out of your comfort zone. Substitute your old behaviour with a new beneficial way of being. Positive changes in behaviour have to be repeated before they become second nature.
2. Negative thoughts
We all have our friendly and not so friendly voices. Maybe you think you’re not good enough? Maybe you spend time comparing yourself to others? Maybe you think you’re a failure? Without focus our thoughts are free to wander. Negative thoughts can be mentally draining. They are often founded on irrational beliefs. These irrational beliefs can contribute to overwhelming feelings of anxiety. What thoughts have been plaguing your mind that you might need to silence? Spend time being kinder to yourself. Interrupt those unkind thoughts with positive ones. Be proud of one thing you’ve achieved each day. Big or small, journal it. Remind yourself how great you are!
3. Unhealthy relationships
The relationships we hold with people are unfortunately not always nourishing. Maybe you’re in a relationship that no longer makes you happy but you’re doing nothing about it? Maybe you know you want out of a relationship but something is keeping you from leaving? Maybe you keep finding yourself in unhealthy relationships? It is important here to review what you want and not what you’re used to. It’s hard to let go of something after the effort and time you put into trying to make it work. The more effort you put in, the harder it is to abandon your efforts and so the cycle continues. Challenge yourself to make decisions based on where you want to be not on where you feel comfortable. What if you could have the things you want? Create a visual representation of your hearts desires and place it where you can see it every day. Remember you don’t have to settle.
Practice the art of letting go. Make room for better to flow in. You alone have the power to change your life. Remain steadfast in the commitment to improving your life. Instead of being your own worst enemy, try being your own best friend.
-If any of the above has spoken to you please get in touch. You can book a complimentary 30 minute Skype consultation with me. During the call you can ask any questions you may have and find out how Less Ordinary Therapy can help. Sign up for your call here. I look forward to hearing from you and exploring how I can support you.